himanshu32[14] |
Dating can be tough. Every time you approach a woman you’re risking rejection, which can feel awful. But if you’re finding that you’re striking out most often, perhaps you’re doing some things that turn women off.
Check with the list below to see how you might be able to improve your chances of meeting women on the scene.
1. Being Shy
Most women are attracted to strong, confident men. We understand that you’re a little nervous… that can be cute. But we have to see that you believe in yourself and that you’ve got the ability to be successful.
2. Being Boring
We don’t care about your model cars or your golf game. Strike up a conversation about something that interests us like current events, movies, or great restaurants. Show us that you’re well rounded and interesting or there’s no way we can imagine having dinner with you.
3. Looking Scruffy
Not all attractive men are drop dead gorgeous, but they do take care of their appearance. Your five o’clock shadow, dirty shoes and wrinkled shirt are such turn offs because they tell women that you simply don’t know how to take care of yourself. Go out looking clean and tidy and you’ll have much better luck with the ladies. If you’re meeting someone through adult personals, make sure your photo is top notch.
4. Being at a bar alone
If you’re alone in a bar and conspicuously trying to pick up women, ladies will get very suspicious. Guys in groups are more likely to put women at ease. Go out with both men and women, as well as singles and couples. Women flock to men who are enjoying themselves with friends.
5. Having Dodgy Friends
Even though I just suggested that you surround yourself with friends, be cautious about which friends you choose. Save your rude and rowdy friends for football games. Instead, head out to the bar with some of your more charming and polished friends. Whether you like it or not, who you are with can reflect positively or negatively on you.
6. Over-using a Female Wingman
I’m the first to encourage men to use their female friends to their advantage when trying to meet women. When a woman notices you, by all means, have one of your female friends casually let them know you are single. But for goodness sake, don’t have them trolling the bar for you. When women notice your tactic, you’ll end up looking like a sleazy guy who doesn’t have the balls to meet women on his own.
7. Being Boastful
There are many subtle ways to let women know that you are successful, such as your air of confidence and the way you dress. There is absolutely no need to tell women how much money you make and what a shark you are at your job. Boasting about how wonderful you are will turn women off faster than you can say "investment portfolio."
8. Talking only about yourself
Listen more than you talk. Keep your end of the conversation short and sweet and let her do most of the talking. Women have a lot more to say than men, and we’re always impressed by men who can actually listen and be engaged for any length of time. It’s a small thing but it will make a lasting first impression.
9. Being a zealot about your religious and political beliefs
When it comes to politics and religion, it’s very easy to offend and alienate someone with your views. Save your soap box rants for your next rally and aim for lighter and more amiable topics of discussion.
10. Using Corny Pick-Up Lines
Pick-Up lines are good for a laugh amongst friends but they’re rarely an effective way to make a connection with a woman. You end up coming off so inauthentic and slimy. Instead, start the evening armed with some great conversation starters. Just be your fun, interesting self and leave the pick-up lines to the comedians.
Posted on: 04 Oct 2012 09:37 pm |
